Forgiveness

Forgiveness...What does that really mean? According to the dictionary it means "to cease to feel resentment against someone." The real question is how do you get rid of the resentment? How do you get past the hurt. Now you might say, I'm not hurt, I'm Mad as hell. If you dig deep and are honest with yourself, you are hurting.

Isn't it funny (ironic) that when we are hurting, we seek to hurt the person that is hurting us? What does that help us gain? Closure? Maybe some primitive satisfaction? What happens then, after we get our revenge? Does that cycle continue? Do I get you back, and so on and so on. At that rate, when do we get to Forgiveness? Does the hurt have to wear off first? How long should that take? What can you do to move that healing along? Maybe the answer is to forgive yourself first. You say "WHAT...I haven't done anything!" Stop...think back. Where did all this begin?

My Grandfather told me, that while you are pointing you finger at someone, you have at least 3 fingers pointing back at you. Even I have to get into the mind set of not pointing finger before I get all the facts. I have a "newly found friend" and follower of my blog to thank for helping me see that.

We rarely put ourselves in the other person's shoes. If we did, what would we see from the other person's view? Most of us have heard the saying, 'Walk a mile in someone else's shoes.'
What would you discover about yourself? Would you like yourself? Would you be able to forgive someone for doing to you what you did to them?

In order to open your hearts and minds to forgive others, you MUST be able to admit your own misgivings and then forgive yourself. We need to learn how to be accountable for your own actions. How to take responsibility for our mistakes in life. How not to be the victim of our own lives. How not to point fingers at someone else, and blame them for our actions. We need to stop saying "You made me do this or that." Unless the person holds a gun to your head and threaten your life, you can make your own choices.

Lets take a day and look at ourselves, our actions, our inability to admit we are wrong or did something wrong, and take the time to own up to our mistakes. Once you admit to yourself that you are not blameless in a situation...Once you are able to admit your own failures. Then and only then can the healing process begin. That process begins with you having the ability to forgive yourself first.

Let Today be the first step in the Healing Process. Forgiveness starts with YOU!!!